Happy Fathers Day I guess?
June 15, 2008 || Filed under family, my old life ||
Well yeah. Fathers Day has never been a big thing to me. Mothers Day I used to go all out with goodies and breakfast in the mornings. When I lived with my mum I would try to help out as much as I could be bothered too (yes, I was a lazy child, hah). But Father Day.. well. Hmmm. My dad has never really been around. I might see him once or twice a year. Since I moved out last June I haven’t seen him at all since. It’s over a year now since I spoke to him face to face and our last physical conversation was a huge argument. Since then it’s been an awkward phonecall here and there. Nothing too special. Maybe once every three or four months I’ll call him for ten minutes. But he’s never called me.
It makes me wonder.. with the track record of a lot of father’s nowadays. How many kids or teens and even adults are out there who still celebrate this day anymore. With so many single mother’s struggling to be both parents for their child(ren). It does make me wonder. And it’s a shame really, that the world is like that. It’s a shame that people don’t fall in love without the cheating and lies. If you have children and marry.. you promise to stay faithful and true to that person.
Sure sometimes people just fall out of love, they grow apart over time. But when the father doesn’t hang around and keep in touch with the children. Well that part just hurts. It really hurts to think that my father produced my sister and I plus another two girls somewhere else and doesn’t make a single effort to care. He doesn’t even know how old I am. My birthday in April, he wasn’t sure if what age to write on the card and had to ask my Auntie for the answer.
So yes.. bit of a rant there, hehe. But still.. it would be nice to have a father figure. But I don’t. So he doesn’t deserve a card 
Simply Precious Shen-Shen Jiske Kristi Dane tiffany kimba Shannon Mae Char
I’m sort of in the same situation as you in the way that we don’t have a father figure. My dad still lives with us, but seriously, it’d be for the best if he didn’t… Father’s Day never really meant much to me all of these years that I’ve been living because of that. So yeah, I do know how you feel about not having a father figure. I would LOVE to have a father figure and a mother figure… =/ So yeah… I hope you’re feeling a bit better about this whole thing, although I don’t think it really has helped you much… =/
Comment by Simply Precious — June 15, 2008 @ 10:22 pm
I hate to say that I understand. My father was gone for most of my childhood, nothing like him abandonning us, but he had to work out of the country. So we never really got to bond, but I remember liking him so much more then. Sad, isn’t it? He’s not much of a father figure at all, either, I feel like he doesn’t care. It does hurt a lot. I think that’s part of the reason why it always upsets me so much when the old men in movies die.
And why is it that there are so many more single mothers than single fathers? I don’t get it. In any case, father’s day makes me a little sad. I wish my father deserved a Happy Father’s Day card. But more than that, I wish he’d be upset that he didn’t. :/
Comment by Shen-Shen — June 16, 2008 @ 1:18 am
I’ve noticed too that there’s a lot of broken families. When I was younger, it never really seemed that way.
I’m not in the most comfortable position either, as you might know. I haven’t send my dad a card. Nor did I call him. All he did for my birthday was transfer the money I was supposed to get anyway, and say ‘happy birthday’ with it on the note. :/ Gah.
I’ll go back to my mum’s for the weekend though, so I’ll probably drop by at my dad’s too. Not looking forward to it.
Comment by Jiske — June 16, 2008 @ 9:36 am
Youre right about that and it’s a shame. I don’t celebrate it for the obvious reason but even when he was alive.. I didn’t really celebrate it. I usually give my father-in-law a card though, because we’re decently close and I love him to death.
On the brighter side: My aunt & uncle and two cousins from Texas came down (my reason for MIA): theyve been happily married for atleast 15 years now and they were on a family vacation together… that’s a good enough image for me to not give up hope.
Comment by Kristi — June 16, 2008 @ 3:17 pm
I celebrate it, but mostly because my dad’s birthday is like, the very next day. So we just roll the two events into one day. We were a lot closer when I was little, I was really Daddy’s little girl, but then puberty hit and I got out of control. Yep.
Comment by Dane — June 19, 2008 @ 4:21 am
Sorry about the relationship you have with your father - your not alone, and I’m sure many people out there feel the same way
Comment by tiffany — June 19, 2008 @ 6:29 am
i really don’t think that mother’s/father’s day is a big deal anymore, it’s basically a hallmark day.
Comment by kimba — June 19, 2008 @ 8:51 am
I understand what you mean. My father was pretty much absent my entire life and only made efforts a few times to be there for me. Father’s Day was never really a big deal to me but I would still do something for my mom on that day because she played the role of both parents.
Comment by Shannon — June 19, 2008 @ 5:57 pm
I don’t celebrate fathers day so much, either. And reading what you wrote and all the responses here…it really is sad.
Comment by Mae — June 20, 2008 @ 2:41 am
My dad passed away when I was 11, so fathers day doesn’t mean much to me either!
*hug*
Comment by Char — June 21, 2008 @ 2:14 pm