A Big Thankyou
May 15, 2008 || Filed under car, family, forum, partner, starting fresh, work ||
I’d like to say a huge thank you to everyone who posted a comment on my last entry. Your words were so kind and supportive, it really picked me up to know that people out there can understand. I must say the police really made me feel like I was the person in the wrong with this case. Like I asked for it in some way by being drunk and in a skirt. I could have been naked laying on a field and not deserved what happened, but some people can be harsh and unfortunately that’s the way the law stands. Which I personally think is awful. But there we go. I’ve yet to hear anymore about it. I also emailed the newspaper that printed the story with false statements and they took the article off the front page. Still yet to recieve an apology. I’m sure that won’t happen though.
I went away last week to spend time at my mum’s in Somerset. Living here with no family can be hard plus Sam and I went on a short break to sort our heads out with what happened and other issues that were constantly popping up, so being away helped a lot. I rekindled my relationship with my sister. We didn’t talk for nearly a year and it hurt a lot to be so distant from eachother, but things are just like they used to be - perhaps better. She’s picking me up again on Saturday to spend the evening out and then Sunday my mum is throwing a family barbecue. It’s great to see my family together as one again. It’s never been as close as it is now. Obviously my dad still isn’t involved but my mum, sister and I can do just fine as we are.
As for other things, I’ve decided to start a new cleaning business in this new town. Not just yet. I’ll wait for the compensation money for my back to come through, then buy myself a car to get around. By then I should hopefully feel a lot better psychologically which means I can get back into bar work during the evenings and hopefully build myself a small cleaning client base, working up from there.
I’m also working on a victim support website for victims of rape and sexual assault. I’ll be setting up a forum for people to communicate and meet others who have been through the same. Survivor stories, general information and a personal support line where people can speak to me via messenger or email. I’ve bought the domain, just need to get everything together. I hope it’ll at least help others - even if my case doesn’t find justice.
Thanks again for the kind words. Also a quick plug for Verity. I’m hoping to recruit some new faces on our wonderful community 
And a very loving plug for BRITT who sent me a birthday CD with lots of songs with my name in it and various others, plus a gorgeous hand made CD cover and a sweet letter. She’s a very kind person and deserves lots of good things
I’m also pleased to say that things with Sam and I are 150% better than ever. He’s just like he used to be, all the tension is gone between us and it feels like old times. I’m much happier with him now and as always, he means the world to me.
Michelle Emma Wrhona Holly Rosie Shen-Shen Britt Julie Jiske Rachel Shawna amy Elizabeth
I think that’s really great of you to make a victim support website. People need a place to share feelings and it’s probably really hard to find people who have suffered the same sort of ordeals that are willing to talk about it and help each other out with it. I’m sure it’ll help a lot of people who maybe weren’t able to talk about it before finding a sort of safe haven to do so.
I’m glad you’re doing better.
Comment by Michelle — May 16, 2008 @ 5:12 am
I’m glad you have made up with you sister, you need all the suppost you can get *hugs*.
The support website sounds like a great idea, good luck starting up your cleaning business.
Comment by Emma — May 16, 2008 @ 2:49 pm
Hey,
Yes, you’re right, going to some other place help. I’m glad you sorted out things with him. Finish strong..
by the way, i’m from despair. i’m sorry I haven’t got around on commenting..
Comment by Wrhona — May 16, 2008 @ 3:54 pm
I agree with Michelle, I think it’s awesome that you’re starting up and victim support forum for people who have been through things similar to you.
Comment by Holly — May 17, 2008 @ 6:35 am
I’m so glad everything is getting better
Comment by Rosie — May 18, 2008 @ 8:29 pm
I’m a little late in commenting on your last post (I just found your site), but I figure late is better than never. I’m so sorry about what happened to you, and I can’t help but want to kill him, and every guy like him, too.
It’s terrible that people are treating you like you’re wronged.. But it’s so great that you’re setting up a forum for people who have suffered similarly - What an awesome thing to do!
I hope things continue to get better for you, I wish you the best, and you’ll be in my thoughts :]
Comment by Shen-Shen — May 19, 2008 @ 12:55 am
Oh wow thanks for the plug and the kind words… <3
I’m glad you’re feeling better now that you’ve been with your family for a while. I guess you just needed some time away from this town? I’m also very glad that things are great again between you & Sam. You deserve a lovely boyfriend. =)
xoxo
Comment by Britt — May 19, 2008 @ 1:36 pm
That’s just awful. I’m sorry to hear what happened. And even more sorry to hear that the police made it out like your fault. That’s just disgusting.
Comment by Julie — May 23, 2008 @ 2:46 pm
I’m glad to see you’re doing better here, too.
I hope things will land on it’s feet and you’ll be back around to do everything you want to do as soon as possible.
You’re such an incredible person setting up a site like that, you’re amazing!
Comment by Jiske — May 24, 2008 @ 2:39 pm
I love you, Laura!
<3
Comment by Rachel — May 27, 2008 @ 11:43 pm
Hey Laura - I know you dont know me or anything but I just wanted to send my support your way for you are going through. I am also the victim of sexual assault, when I was the age of 9 so I understand what you are going through. Please do not hesitate to contact me to talk about this - I know how hard it is to have all this pent up inside and feel like no one will understand. I do, so even though we dont know each other - Im here to talk to. Id also be more then happy and willing to help you with your sexual assault/rape site - I know I wish I had one of them around when I went through my experience.
Stay strong and hope to hear from you.
~Shawna (AIM: SexiChica822)
Comment by Shawna — May 29, 2008 @ 2:22 pm
i’m very sorry for what happened to you. it makes me so angry that there are people who could actually believe something like “she was asking for it.” that’s sick.
Comment by amy — May 30, 2008 @ 11:45 pm
Oh my gosh I’m so sorry! It’s terrible and sick and i hope that ass goes to jail. I cant believe the police would not listen, I would get very angry too. I hope the newspaper apologizes. It’s great that having a better relationship with your sister, and starting a forum too!
Comment by Elizabeth — June 1, 2008 @ 9:42 pm